1) Hugging increases oxytocin in the body that reduces stress and lowers blood pressure.
2) Hugging can stimulate the brain to release dopamine, the feel-good hormone.
3) Hugs can reveal different levels of affection. A woman will tend to press her whole body against the person she cares most about.
4) Hugs can cure depression, loneliness, and increases security, trust and self-esteem.
5) Hugs are free.
- don’t eat less, eat right
- don’t hold it in, it’s okay to cry
- don’t hurt yourself, there is always an alternative
- don’t shut yourself away, speak up
- don’t be your own bully, be your own hero
- don’t give up, because you’re worth so much more than you think
Anonymous said: I really, really need help. My best friend in the whole world has severe anxiety and self harms. She is abused at home and has nobody there for her but me. We're only 16 so I feel helpless to help her. I listen and offer advice since (cont.)
Hey anon, I’ll answer this part but I didn’t receive a Continued so feel free to send me any more details that I’ve missed.
I think she needs prefessional help. This is really serious and it’s a huge burden on you. It’s great that you listen and offer advice but sometimes that just isn’t enough. When people are being hurt (by others or themselves) it’s time to notify somebody that can step in. Your school counseling office is a great place to start by telling one of them or asking for resources on one of the mentioned topics. Once you or your friend is in contact with any kind of prefessional they will have access to resources for other things that may not be in their field.
I know this is a big step and maybe even a scary one, but think of what you would want somebody who cares about you to do for you. People that love each other need to do what’s best for the other person even if they don’t see it right away. In my point of view it would be better that somebody I love be getting help and hate me than continue being hurt and still be my friend.
Best of luck, Stay Strong
Anonymous said: Hi I'm constantly feeling anxious like when you go to a new school for the first time or when you're going to an interview, its like a nervous feeling but it stays for a long time.... once it stayed from 8 in the morning to around 11 pm at night... It also makes it harder for me to breath sometimes.... Is this what anxiety is? and if it is what can I do to get rid of it? Thank you
Yes, this is anxiety! This is exactly what my kind of anxiety is- not short panic attacks but hours long eriods of time where my chest is tight and I have trouble breathing. and let me tell you this- it really sucks. but there are ways to manage it.
What helped me was having a person to tell all the bad things too. I found a free counseling service through my school and got set up with it. She and I talked about my stress levels throughout the week, what was triggering me, and how I could help myself through it. The simple act of letting it all out by telling her helped me a lot. It’s a good idea to identify what triggers your anxiety and do what you can to avoid it. If you can’t avoid it, tell yourself it won’t hurt you and give yourself permission to be calm about the event. Controlled breathing is always helpful for anxiety. Even if you can’t take deep breaths right away, count your breathing slowly and expand your lungs more every time. I like to count to 4 because I’m an ex-bandkid. In-two-three-four, hold-two-three-four, out-two three-four and repeat.
I hope these help, best of luck! Stay Strong